Breaking Up With BS: Your No-Filter Guide to Heartbreak Myths

That 2AM Google search for “how to get over your ex” probably led you down some questionable paths. Between the suggestions for tequila shots and the promises of miracle cures, there’s a lot of toxic advice out there. Let’s break down these myths and get real about what healing actually looks like.

Myth #1: “The 3-Month Magic Fix”

🚩 “Just give it 3 months and you’ll be fine!”

Whoever came up with this timeline clearly never had their heart properly shattered. Your healing journey isn’t a TikTok recipe – you can’t just set a timer and expect your feelings to be fully baked.

Some relationships need a quick mourning period, others might have you in your feelings for a whole season (or three). And guess what? Both are perfectly valid. Your timeline, your rules. Period.

Myth #2: “Just Get Under Someone New!”

🚩 The classic rebound recommendation

Let’s be honest – that hot barista’s smile hits different when you’re heartbroken. And sure, a steamy situationship might feel like emotional morphine right now.

But here’s the tea: Your healing journey isn’t a relay race. You don’t need to pass the baton to someone new to cross the finish line. Feel free to flirt and have fun, but don’t use it as a Band-Aid for those deeper feels.

Myth #3: “You’ll Never Find Anyone Like Them”

🚩 The biggest lie your broken heart tells you

First of all: Thank. God.

Let’s be real – they weren’t the divine gift to humanity your rose-colored memories are painting them as. Remember how they:

Couldn’t commit to dinner plans but could commit to gaming for 12 hours straight
Thought therapy was “for crazy people”
Never supported your dreams but expected you to be their personal cheerleader
Made you feel like you were “too much” when you shared your feelings

Yeah, suddenly “never finding anyone like them” sounds more like a blessing than a curse, right?

Myth #4: “If You Ended It, You Can’t Be Sad”

🚩 The toxic “strong person” narrative

Newsflash: You can be strong enough to walk away AND still cry about it in the shower. Ending things doesn’t mean your feelings pack up and leave with their Xbox.

Being the one to say goodbye doesn’t make you immune to missing their good morning texts or the way they made that stupid joke that always made you laugh. Feel your feelings, friend. You’re human, not a robot.

Myth #5: “You Need Closure”

🚩 The myth that keeps you texting your ex at midnight

Plot twist: The only person who can give you real closure is looking at you in the mirror right now.

That final conversation you’re dreaming about? The one where they finally understand everything and validate your feelings? It’s a fantasy, bestie. Your healing isn’t dependent on their acknowledgment.

You get to write your own ending. Make it a good one. ✨

The Real Talk

Breaking up isn’t a science – it’s more like abstract art. Messy, emotional, and totally unique to you. There’s no wrong way to do it (except texting your ex after wine night – that’s always wrong).

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